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Do You Want To Feel Appreciated?

Do You Want To Feel Appreciated?

Do you want to feel appreciated? Do you want to feel loved? Yet, it seems as if nobody cares….. You are not alone. We all have a need to feel appreciated… So let me ask you this; do you make someone else feel special? What about your spouse? Do you make him/her feel loved and appreciated?

Only a few days ago the whole world celebrated Valentine’s Day. It was all excitement. Business boomed as people bought expensive gifts for their loved ones. Flowers became ridiculously expensive and if you didn’t book your table, you had a hard time finding an available table at a restaurant.

This is all beautiful, but what happened on Monday morning, 15 February 2016? What was it like in your home? Was it back to the “normal” rat race routine with no time to even smile at anybody, or did that “spark” carry over into the next day? Or even better; are you in the habit of making your partner feel special anyhow, irrespective of what the date is? Do you actually put in the effort to make the time – even if it is just a couple of seconds – to make a point of telling your spouse that he/she is special?

A Relationship Doesn’t Happen By Itself, You Need To Work At It.

Our youngest daughter got married a month ago. I doubt if I had ever seen her face glowing as it did on her wedding day. Everybody commented on how beautiful she looked and how she glowed with happiness.

Since then, my wife and I have been over to visit the newlyweds a couple of times. Each time we got there, the joy, the excitement and appreciation for one another just can’t be missed when you walk into their home.

Our eldest daughter got married two years ago, and it is no different when we go to visit them. There is mutual respect and love and they make no secret of it. Decisions are made together, and if they are not in agreement about something, they don’t do it.

My wife and I will celebrate 31 years of marriage this year, and it is no different. Neither one of us would make any decision without the other, nor does anything give me more joy than to see her being happy about something and feeling special.

Does this just happen by itself? Are we just being lucky? Heck no. We have had our challenges, but when we made our commitment just over 30 years ago, we meant it. When the challenges come, you sometimes have to bite your teeth and work through it. Without communication I’m sure it will be a losing battle…..and oh yes, communication is not just about talking, it does involve listening too…lol.  But today the alternatives are too easy. And the worst part of all is the fact that the children suffer most.

Yes it takes work. It takes effort, but the rewards are beyond words. And sometimes when you think back about some of those challenges, you can actually have a giggle about it today.

Start By Making Someone Else Feel Special.

I have recently written a guest post – 60 Quotes about Love That You Will Love – at Empowerment Moments Blog (you can read it here). Love is about more than just receiving, it is about giving. It is about caring for those around you, your family and friends….and yes….even your colleagues at work.

Do you feel unappreciated? Why don’t you take the first step, by reaching out to someone else? Start by making someone else feel better about him-/her-self and experience the joy it will give you.

The Bible says in Luke 6:38 (NIV) “Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.”

Give some appreciation, give some love and see the return you get.

Do you show your appreciation towards other people and how do they respond to it? Tell me about it in the comments section below; I would love to hear from you.

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