Are you so caught up in the power of negative thinking that you think you just have to accept that this is how it’s always going to be? Can you associate with the following scenario?
You were tossing and turning all night long, trying to solve the problem you’ve been dealing with at work for the last three days. Every time you think you have finally found the solution, you come up with another reason why that won’t work. Eventually…..it feels as if you have just fallen asleep when the alarm clock goes off. Good heavens, when are you going to get some sleep? Twenty minutes later you wake up again……with a shock…..instead of the snooze button, you must have hit the off button on the alarm clock.
You rush through the house like a whirl-wind to get ready for work, get in the car and drive like a lunatic to get to the office on time. As you enter the building the lady at reception greets you with a friendly “good morning”. In your mind you just growl back “what’s so good about it?” but on second thought you manage to get that forced smile on your face and answer with a quick “fine thanks and you?” You hypocrite you….. You are not fine. Who are you kidding?
Are your days just made up of solving problems? As soon as one problem is solved, three more are waiting for you.
Does any of this ring a bell? Why can other people be happy (and you always seem to bump into them), but not you?
How Can You Stop The Power of Negative Thinking?
First; let’s determine what’s on your mind.
Yes, what’s on your mind? What you constantly think about will determine your mood and eventually the quality of your day. It all starts with your thoughts. You are what you think. Proverbs 23:7 (NLV) says ‘For as he thinks in his heart, so is he. He says to you, “Eat and drink!” But his heart is not with you’. What this man is saying is not really sincere. Reading the same verse in the NIV translation it reads ‘for he is the kind of person who is always thinking about the cost. “Eat and drink,” he says to you, but his heart is not with you’.
Can you imagine what’s going on inside his mind? What he is saying to you is not what’s in his heart; it is not what’s on his mind. You are costing him money. Those words are not spontaneous and sincere. His mind is stressed out, his calculating the cost. He is most likely always stressed, busy calculating possible profits and who’s costing him money. Can you imagine the mood this man is in? It is because of what he is constantly thinking about.
What Are You Saying?
It has become popular these days and people are encouraged to speak positively in order to “attract positive results”. But there is something wrong with the order here. First of all, if you don’t really believe what you are saying, you can speak positively and repeat positive affirmations until eternity comes, it’s not going to make any difference.
Luke 6:44-45 (NIV) says “ 44 Each tree is recognized by its own fruit. People do not pick figs from thornbushes, or grapes from briers. 45 A good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and an evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For the mouth speaks what the heart is full of”. In this case neither good man nor the evil man needs to think about what he is going to say. This is what he says spontaneously. And what comes out of his mouth, is what his heart is full of. That is what he really believes.
It means you have to get your thoughts in order first. And if you want to jumpstart your day (everyday) to feel better, you should start paying attention to your thought life first. You need to break the power of negative thinking.
If you stay focused on negative thinking, you will be negative. When you stay focused on all your problems and you don’t start focusing on the solutions, you will become stressed and even depressed. What were you thinking (or how were you thinking) in the beginning paragraph of this post? What we often do is to get all stressed out with the problem and we start saying things such as “I can’t find the solution”, or “I just can’t fix this problem”, or sometimes it even goes to the extreme and it goes to “this is killing me; I just can’t take it anymore”.
So how can you change your thinking? Well, the first place I think of is going to the Word of God. The Bible is filled with positive promises for us. I’m not saying you are going to find the answer you are looking for to solve the problem at work written down for you in the Bible. But; let’s start with John 14:12-14 (NIV) that says “ 12 Very truly I tell you, whoever believes in me will do the works I have been doing, and they will do even greater things than these, because I am going to the Father. 13 And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. 14 You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it”.
James 1:4-6 (NIV) says” 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. 6 But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind”, and then we look at Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV) that says “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future”.
These are just a few, there are many more such promises. The next step is to read these messages and meditate on them by reading them out loud, thinking about them and studying them. This will fill your mind with the promises of God and you will develop faith in these promises (Romans 10:17). So as your faith develops, guess what starts coming out of your mouth without you thinking about it? Yes, the Word of God.
Remember that problem at work? Instead of getting stressed out and frustrated, you’ll start thinking about solutions. If you can’t find the solution, you’ll think about James 1:5 that says you can ask God for wisdom and He will give it to you. Start confessing that and stand in faith. Go to bed and get some sleep. You will not add one hour to your life by worrying (Matthew 6:27).
I’m not saying you should just stop working on the problem. But stop saying that you can’t solve it. Move your focus from the problem to finding the solution. The answer will come. When you least expect it – you might even be working on something completely different – you may experience what you call that “aha” moment. Where did that come from? Guess what. Another prayer has just been answered. It doesn’t always happen in an instant the moment you say amen. But the answer will come. It’s all about believing and trusting God.
Make It a Habit
It all starts with your thinking. You choose what you think. You think about that which you pay most attention too.
Consider the following:
- What you think about will have an effect on what you say.
- What you say will have an effect on your actions.
- Your actions have results which confirm what you believe.
- What you believe is what you are thinking about.
Earlier this year I did a post on this whole cycle. You can read it here.
If you are serious about getting your mind under control and being able to jumpstart each day, you might want to look at the new book and action plan that Joyce Meyer has recently made available on Amazon, called The Mind Connection.
It’s not always easy, but we shouldn’t be passively waiting for things around us to happen and then become a product of our circumstances. It is not about what happens to us externally, it is about how we respond to what happens to us. We have no control over what happens externally from day to day. But we can choose how we respond to those things. We also have the choice of whose company we keep. Don’t remain in the company of negative thinking people while you are doing your best to get focused on something positive. Seek the company of people who are positive and excited about life.
Change your mind, fight the good fight. Change the way you think, and you will change your life.
Are you in control of your mind? Or are you stuck in the power of negative thinking? Are you a product of your circumstances or are your circumstances a product of your thinking? Which one is it?
Tell me what you think.